IFS + EMDR Therapy | Murrieta & Online Across California
Anxiety & Burnout Therapy In Murrieta, CA
For Adults Who Look Capable on the Outside but Feel Overwhelmed on the Inside. Therapy can help you calm your nervous system, understand what’s driving the anxiety, and build a more sustainable way of living.
You Look Like You Have It All Together.
But inside, you're running on adrenaline and fumes because slowing down feels impossible.
You've tried breathing exercises, boundary-setting advice, and telling yourself to just relax. It hasn't worked. Anxiety and burnout aren't problems you can think your way out of. They're signals from your nervous system that something needs attention.
Therapy for anxiety and burnout is for you if:
You hold yourself to standards you would never expect from someone else.
You feel as if you stop managing everything, something will fall apart.
You find it hard to slow down, rest, or be present without feeling guilty.
You’re caught in a cycle of perfectionism, self-doubt, and trying to do everything “right.”
You’re tired of being praised for being strong when what you really need is support.
Your anxiety shows up in your relationships—withdrawal, people-pleasing, shutdown, or constant worry.
WHAT I HELP WITH
People-Pleasing & Caretaker Burnout
You absorb everyone else's emotions, fix their problems, and minimize your own needs. Now you're running on empty with nothing left for yourself.
Perfectionism & Overfunctioning
You hold yourself to impossible standards and do everything for everyone else. The fear of making mistakes or disappointing people keeps you in constant overdrive.
Anxious Attachment & Relationship Anxiety
You worry constantly about being rejected or abandoned. You need reassurance but can't fully receive it. Conflict sends you into panic, and you either cling or withdraw to protect yourself from being hurt.
Nervous system stuck in overdrive (or shutdown)
Your body won't settle. You're either hypervigilant—scanning for threats, catastrophizing, unable to turn your mind off—or you shut down completely, disconnecting and going numb.
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To help process experiences, beliefs, and emotional patterns that still feel stuck in your mind and your body.
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For inner conflict, self-criticism, perfectionism, trauma, attachment wounds, overwhelm, and burnout.
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To help you reconnect with your body’s cues, build internal safety, and work with stress at the nervous system level.
How I Help:
What it’s like to work with me
I won't tell you to just relax and set better boundaries.
If willpower and self-care advice worked, you wouldn’t be here. Anxiety and burnout aren't problems you can think your way out of—they're your mind and body telling you something needs attention.
We get curious about what's driving your anxiety and overfunctioning.
Your anxiety isn't random. Your burnout isn't laziness. There's a reason your mind races, your body won't settle, and rest feels impossible.
We focus on what's underneath, not just what shows up on the surface.
Instead of only teaching you to manage anxiety or forcing yourself to rest while your insides scream that you're lazy, we address why your nervous system won't settle.
I use EMDR, IFS, and somatic work to help you process the experiences, beliefs, and protective patterns keeping you stuck. We'll work with the thoughts, emotions, body responses, and relational patterns underneath anxiety and burnout.
Change isn't just something you understand—it's something you begin to feel.
What Change Looks Like
You'll know this work is landing when:
Your nervous system settles — the constant mental chatter and hypervigilance quiet down
Rest stops feeling like failure — you can slow down without guilt screaming at you
You notice your limits earlier — before hitting the wall or burning out completely
Boundaries feel possible — not just intellectually, but in your body
You can be present — not constantly planning, fixing, or bracing for what's next
"Good enough" becomes actually good enough — the drive to over-function softens
Your relationships feel easier — you can show up without people-pleasing or shutting down
FAQs
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Traditional therapy often focuses on coping strategies—breathing exercises, thought-challenging, stress management. Those can help in the moment, but they don't address why your nervous system is stuck in overdrive. We work with what's creating the anxiety and burnout: the experiences that taught you the world isn't safe, the beliefs tying your worth to productivity, the patterns keeping you trapped. When those shift, the symptoms change on their own.
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No. The fear is that anxiety is what keeps you functional—that without it, you'll fall apart or stop caring. But anxiety isn't motivating you; it's exhausting you. What actually happens is you become more effective and creative when your nervous system isn't burning all its energy on hypervigilance and fear. You still care about your work—you just stop running on fumes.
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Neurodivergent nervous systems often run hotter—more vigilant, more reactive, more easily overwhelmed. We work with how your brain is wired (that's not the problem) while addressing the protective patterns that developed to survive in a neurotypical world. You don't need to become less ADHD or less autistic; you need support that actually fits how you function.
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Most neurodivergent adults come in for one thing (anxiety, burnout, relationship struggles) and discover layers underneath: years of masking, internalized shame, trauma from being misunderstood, parts that learned to hide instead of getting needs met.
Healing that takes time. Usually at least 3-6 months and somethings up to a year or more.
Let's get started