Therapy for Insightful Adults Who Still Feel Stuck
Trauma and attachment-focused therapy for relationship struggles, anxiety, perfectionism, and the things insight alone hasn't changed.
In-Person in Murrieta | Online Across California
IFS • EMDR • Somatic Therapy
You know why you do what you do. Changing what happens in the moment is harder.
You've gained insight. You've talked about it. You've tried to change. But when you're stressed, hurt, overwhelmed, or vulnerable, old reactions can take over before you can do anything about it.
Therapy for Insightful Adults That Still Feel Stuck
Trauma and attachment-focused therapy for relationship struggles, anxiety, perfectionism, and the things insight alone hasn't changed.
In-Person in Murrieta | Online Across California
You know why you do what you do. Changing what happens in the moment is harder.
You've gained insight. You've talked about it. You've tried to change. But when you're stressed, hurt, overwhelmed, or vulnerable, old reactions can take over before you can do much about it.
You might find yourself:
Pushing through because slowing down feels impossible
Overthinking decisions and second-guessing what you actually want
Taking responsibility for other people's feelings
Pulling away, shutting down, or not trusting in relationships
Feeling overwhelmed by emotions or disconnected from them entirely
Trying to get everything “right” so you can finally feel settled
The gap between understanding and actually changing is where deeper healing begins.
The things you're trying to change usually developed for a reason.
Staying guarded. Keeping the peace. Being the responsible one. Thinking through every possible outcome. Pushing yourself to get it right. Handling things on your own.
At some point, these may have helped you feel safer, stay connected, avoid criticism, or manage situations that felt outside of your control.
The problem is that your system can keep relying on those same strategies long after they're useful. What once protected you can start getting in the way of closeness, self-trust, rest, and knowing what you actually want.
Therapy isn't about getting rid of those parts of you.
It's about understanding what they're protecting, working with what's underneath them, and helping you have more choice when those old responses show up.
WHAT I HELP WITH:
ANXIETY & BURNOUT
When your nervous system won't settle
TRAUMA & ATTACHMENT WOUNDS
When the damage wasn't one event, but a thousand small ones
PERFECTIONISM & OVERFUNCTIONING
The exhaustion of never feeling or doing enough
ADULT ADHD & AUTISM
For high-masking adults navigating emotional regulation and burnout
How I Work
We get curious about what’s driving the reaction, not just how to stop it.
I work from an attachment-focused, IFS-informed perspective. That means we make sense of the parts of you that stay guarded, overthink, take care of everyone else, shut down, or push you to keep going, rather than treating them as problems to eliminate.
Depending on what you need, I also integrate Attachment-Focused EMDR and somatic work to process unresolved experiences and work with reactions that aren't shifting through insight alone.
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EMDR therapy helps your brain and nervous system reprocess experiences, beliefs, and emotional patterns that still feel unresolved. This can be especially helpful when insight alone has not changed the way your body reacts, the way old memories feel, or the way certain triggers keep showing up in your life.
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IFS helps us understand the different parts of you that may feel stuck, conflicted, protective, overwhelmed, or exhausted. Instead of fighting the inner critic, the overachiever, the people-pleaser, or the part that shuts down, we get curious about what those parts are trying to protect. This work helps create more self-trust, compassion, and internal steadiness.
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Somatic therapy brings the body and nervous system into the work. Together, we pay attention to signals like tension, shutdown, urgency, numbness, or overwhelm so healing is not only something you understand intellectually. This can help you build more capacity, regulation, and safety from the inside out.
EXPLORE SOMATIC THERAPY
HI, I’M TANA
I’m interested in what makes sense about the things you wish you could change.
I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in trauma, attachment, and the ways early relationships continue to shape how we relate to ourselves and other people.
My style is warm, curious, and active. You'll have space to talk and process, but I won't just sit back when I notice something important happening. I'll point out what I'm seeing, ask questions, and help us get curious about what's underneath it together.
My work is informed by IFS, Attachment-Focused EMDR, somatic approaches, and over 17 years of clinical experience. I adapt how we work to you rather than expecting you to fit neatly into one method.
What’s the Right Support for Me?
Curious about an InTEnsive?
EMDR Intensives condense months of weekly therapy into focused, dedicated sessions — so you can work deeper without losing momentum between appointments.
How This Works:
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We Decide Together
I'll help you choose the format and approach that fits your needs.
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We Begin
Using IFS, EMDR, somatic work, or a blend — whatever your system needs.
Testimonials
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I was looking for someone who wasn’t just a great listener, but someone who could really help me dig and help me understand the patterns in my life that were holding me back... Tana has given me so many valuable tools, resources, and ways to reflect on myself that have helped me understand myself, accept myself, interact in healthier ways with others, become less attached to my past identity, and just generally feel more free from my personal traumas.
- Heidi L.
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Tana is compassionate and kind hearted, she has unique therapy techniques that have helped me through my journey such as EMDR. It's nice to have an unbiased opinion without the judgement or fear. I felt comfortable sharing with her.
- T. S
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Tana is a compassionate, genuine, and skilled therapist whom I would highly recommend to anyone seeking therapeutic support. With her extensive knowledge and experience using EMDR and Internal Family Systems, she brings a unique and effective approach to therapy. Tana is a trusted and reliable professional.
Allison DB.
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