THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIPS IN TEMECULA, CA & ONLINE

Our past experiences, especially those related to attachment and connection, often create unconscious blueprints for our current relationships. If you experienced inconsistent care, betrayal, or unmet needs, parts of you might react with fear, anger, or withdrawal in present-day relationships. By compassionately processing these past wounds, you can unburden yourself from old patterns, allowing you to respond to others from a place of conscious choice, rather than automatic reaction.

While both aim to improve relationships, this is individual therapy, not couples therapy. The focus is solely on your internal experience, patterns, and growth. We explore how your past experiences, emotional responses, and communication styles impact your relationships. By working on yourself, you develop the capacity to show up differently and more effectively in all your connections, whether or not your partner participates in therapy.

I help individuals navigate a wide range of relationship challenges, including:

• Repeating unhealthy patterns in dating or partnerships

• Difficulty setting boundaries or feeling taken advantage of

• Struggles with communication, feeling unheard or misunderstood

• Navigating codependency or enmeshment

• Healing from betrayal, heartbreak, or relationship endings

• Challenges with trust and intimacy

• Feeling disconnected or isolated despite being in relationships

• Impact of family dynamics on current relationships

I draw upon a range of evidence-based and client-centered approaches to tailor our work to your unique needs. This may include:

• Attachment Theory: Understanding how early relational experiences shape your current connection styles.

• Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy: Helping you understand the "parts" within you that influence your relational behaviors and beliefs, and fostering inner harmony.

• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapy: Processing past experiences that might be unconsciously impacting your ability to connect or trust.

• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills: Developing practical skills for emotional regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, and mindfulness.

• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Learning to accept difficult emotions while committing to actions aligned with your values in relationships.

• Somatic work: Connecting with body sensations to understand and release relational patterns held in the body.

Here are some signs that individual relationship therapy might be right for you:

• You find yourself repeating unhealthy patterns in your relationships. Maybe you consistently pick the "wrong" partners, struggle with trust, or find yourself in the same arguments over and over again.

• You feel like your past is influencing your present connections. Unresolved trauma, early attachment wounds, or family dynamics might be unconsciously shaping how you relate to others today.

• You're struggling with communication, even when you try. You might feel unheard, misunderstood, or find it difficult to express your true feelings and needs.

• You're experiencing significant personal challenges that are spilling over into your relationships. This could include anxiety, depression, or stress that makes it hard to be present and connected with others.

• You want to improve your relationships, but you know the work needs to start with you. You're ready to look inward, understand your own role, and cultivate a stronger sense of self.

• You feel disconnected or isolated, even when you're with others. You desire deeper, more authentic connections but feel something is holding you back.

• Your goal is personal growth and self-discovery, and you believe this will, in turn, enhance your relationships.

It's important to note that individual relationship therapy is different from couples therapy. While couples therapy brings partners together to work on relationship dynamics, individual therapy focuses on your personal growth, emotional regulation, and self-improvement, which then positively impacts all your relationships.